Guest Blogger: Melissa from Every Woman, Everywhere

Today's Guest Post comes from Melissa who I met through 20sb.  If your in your 20's and your a blogger it's a great place to connect with other bloggers worldwide.


Thank you Melissa for sharing a lesson that you've learned!


Learning Not to Judge Myself

I used to be so afraid. Afraid that other people were judging me. Afraid that they were looking at me and thinking less of me. Afraid that I wasn’t good enough for them.

And then one day I realized that while yes, I was being judged by some people some of the time, most of the time, I was just judging myself. I was doing it for other people without realizing it. 

Because I would look at another girl and think, “She’s prettier than me. I’m ugly.” I would listen to another person speak and think, “He’s smarter than me. I’m dumb.” I would hear what another wife does for her husband and think, “There’s no way I could do all that. I’m a bad wife.” The list goes on and on. 

And one day it hit me. I was judging myself. Those people didn’t say anything. I thought something. I was hurting myself. 

And that’s when I realized I needed to make a change. Because I have been wonderfully made by my Creator who loves me and thinks I’m beautiful and special enough to die for. I am His daughter. 

So day by day, step by step, I am learning not to judge myself. It’s difficult. I’m not perfect at it. But it started when I realized that I was judging myself. Because now if I start to think it, I can try and stop it in it’s tracks and reverse it. To tell myself where my real worth comes from. But I needed, most importantly, to realize it first, because otherwise I couldn’t start thinking positive things about myself. 


Melissa is a recent graduate who studied political science and writing.  She's currently a stay-at-home housewife, preparing for her first child due in May.  Melissa blogs at Every Woman, Everywhere a blog about women's issues.